Adolescent Sexuality: How does it work these days, and when should we reach out to a therapist?

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Our sexual opinions and behaviors can change significantly based upon our age, experiences, and values.  We have the honor of working with a wide variety of clients and their sexual experiences are as different as any other parts of their story.  We know it to be true that our experiences with sexuality in adolescence have an impact in how we experience sexuality as an adult.  But, the details can change from person to person.

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Do you know what gratitude is?

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Quick Hits:

  • Gratitude is not simply saying “thank you”.

  • You should be intentionally practicing gratitude daily because of its many proven physical and psychological health benefits.

  • Simple, quick exercises can help you realize these many benefits.(action steps listed below)

Personal disclaimer (you can skip this part if you just want the tips):  I LOVE this topic more than just about any other.  I’m fascinated by gratitude.  I’ve spoken to people who have made gratitude the cornerstone of their lives.  It is the foundation of their spiritual condition.  I’ve also spoken to people who have ever hardly given it a second thought.  To me, anything that covers that much ground has got to be interesting.  This post discusses the academic research that has defined gratitude, proven its utility in our lives, and prescribed ways to practice it.  Whether you practice gratitude daily, or never think about it, I suspect you’ll find this information intriguing if not downright exhilarating. Here’s the gratitude post…

What does “transgender” even mean?


Really though, WTH does “transgender” mean?

Quick Hits:

  • If you don’t know something, that doesn’t make you a bad person.

  • Anatomy, identity, expression, sexuality – are four distinct components of our lives that deal with gender.

  • These four components, like most things in life, exist on a spectrum, which is to say, they are non-binary or have more than two possible outcomes.

  • To be transgender is defined by each individual, but basically refers to the extent to which a person’s gender identity, role, or expression is different from the cultural norms prescribed for people of a particular sex.For example – a person could have the anatomy of a female but identify and/or express themselves in a way that is less feminine, or more masculine, than cultural norms.

  • Transgender / Gender nonconforming people have been around forever.The way cultures have responded to them has changed.For example, indigenous cultures referred to GNC people as “Two Spirited”, and they were revered as healers and visionaries.

  • Gender nonconforming (GNC) folks are not dangerous.Tragically, GNC folks are much more likely to be the targets of violent crimes than to be perpetrators.

First off – not knowing something is nothing to be ashamed of.  If you’re confused about some aspect of identifying as transgender, there is nothing wrong with you!  This post is designed to help.  My goal is to provide some basic factual information on this topic.  My hope is that this information will help you be more comfortable and feel better informed when you interact with folks who identify as transgender, or gender nonconforming (GNC). 

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